Daily Archives: December 3, 2008

In Memoriam

The tragedy:

Zal Chapgar, a star athlete and 2003 graduate of Wissahickon High School, took his life on Monday in the most public of places, leaping from an upper floor of the Loews Philadelphia Hotel and landing on the sidewalk at 12th and Market Streets.

The article reminded me of so many I know that are similarly brilliant and drifting deeper into depression. The article touched on the incredible difficulties associated with getting adults help who are suffering from mental illness, but refuse treatment.

He had been suffering from depression and mental illness for the last year, his family said. Because he was an adult, their ability to help him find the treatment he needed was limited.

Wedding (Warning) Bells

Omg, I just read whzc1at Ramit Sethi posted about weddings and I just had a heart attack. According to him:

The average age at marriage is about 27 for men and 26 for women. We know that the average amount of a wedding is about $28,000. So, if you agree with this choice — and you don’t want to go into debt for your wedding — here’s how much you should be saving.

So by these calculations if I’m 23 I should be saving $583 a month. Yikes.

Saving the Green

If you’re looking for creative ways to save money this month. Check out the tips that Ramit Sethi suggested:

Full list of tips
Pack lunches for the rest of the week
Turn your thermostat down 3 degrees
Sell something on eBay today
Involve your friends in your savings challenge
Optimize your cellphone bill
Use gas prices to become your own hedge fund
Create a “No Spending” day once a week
Implement the A La Carte Method
Only buy new things when replacing something old
Use the free rewards from your credit card, car insurance, and workplace
Never pay full retail price for clothes or eyeglasses again
How I’m saving $2,000+ on eating out in 2009
How to negotiate your car insurance
Use self-persuasion to share how much you’ve saved so far
Forget going to a bar — ask people over for dinner
Cancel any large purchase this month
Buy generic for the stuff you don’t care about
No Christmas gifts this year
Save Money, Eat Well and Look Hot in Less Than an Hour
Change the date of Christmas
Save thousands by pre-paying your debt
Analyze your progress in the 30 Day Challenge (plus, see how I’m doing)
Go cash only for 15 to 30 days
Cut your commute expenses by 40%

CrapCakes

zaI recently visited Brown Betty Petite, an offshoot of Brown Betty Dessert Boutique. Unlike the former, which sells all types of dessert goodies, the Petite version only sells cupcakes. As usual, five years after any sort of trend dies down in NYC, Philly decides to jump on the dying bandwagon.

At $3 a piece, it’s cheaper to buy a box of Betty Crocker and buy it a day. It also tastes better. After sitting in a refridgerated case all day, those pretty cupcakes are in no way/form/shape ready to eat. Others beg to differ.

I say you save your money and start a-bakin.’

Honestly, besides Under the Oak Cafe, which is far far away from Center City – I have yet to find a baker in CC I actually like.  (FYI I’m not being paid to plug this particular cafe. I’m just terrified that if it goes out of business I”ll have nowhere decent to eat in East Oak Lane! Have you gone to the that terrible Oak Lane Diner? Blech!)

I Know This Much is True

I recently finished reading Susan Wicklund’s book entitled “This Common Secret,” which details her life as physician performing abortions in rural America.

An interview with her reveals:

There is no typical patient situation. It isn’t all students who want to stay in school, it isn’t all career women who want to continue with their careers and not have children right now. It isn’t all single women who aren’t married and not ready to have a child on their own. And it isn’t all married women who had kids but now feel financially strapped. It’s all of those women. When people start stereotyping who it is that has an abortion, it drives me crazy.

No matter your personal views on the matter, I highly recommend your read it before making up your mind on anything. Reading about the death threats these doctors and their families receive is truly eye-opening.

Wanted

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Update from Brian’s Wife

Brian’s wife sent this email in the morning:

Brian is in critical condition and no longer in induced coma, but he is not awake or responding to commands. He sometimes moves the left side of his body and I think I felt him squeeze my hand today. CT this afternoon is worse than the past two and shows a major vein located at the motor strip where the frontal lobe meets the parietal has been affected by the bleeding that occurred during surgery Saturday night, causing some hypoxia. This bleed was treated with coagulants and therefore there is a clot located at this position. All other areas which showed vein tearing and bleeding are stable, which is good.

Two out of three docs called it a stroke, BUT, patients can recover from this. And if anyone can it is Brian. Unfortunately, because he is bleeding in this area they can’t treat him for a stroke. Also, after a stroke, there is swelling that takes place and usually appears Days 2 and 3. Tomorrow is Day 3 post-op, so we are not out of the woods with this area of bleeding yet. The goal is for tomorrow’s CT to be stable, but there is a chance it will worsen. Since he had bilateral craniotomies the swelling in this area will have some room, which is good, but I hope it doesn’t cause more hypoxia. Overall, the outcome of the surgery was a success because his ICP is stable and has been since Saturday. Once we hit a week and the ICP is still stable, it is likely the pressure will not get worse. All other vitals are also stable. The swelling in his face was less than last night, but his extremities are a slightly bigger. He is accepting tube feedings and he continues to try and pull out the ventilator tube.

My thought going to sleep tonight is that tomorrow’s CT will be stable. If you visit Brian, he can hear you, so please talk to him.

Also, if you are interested in helping to contribute funds for his medical care (I imagine freelancer journalists like myself have little/no health insurance, please follow this link.)

A Moment of Silence

z24As much as I’m a Temple fan, what with being an alum and all, I was a bit surprised to find the following in my email. I know Temple has a lot of Indian students (since when do they care about that?) but I honestly didn’t expect anything like this. Who knew other countries cared? Who knew my local community cared?

Candlelight vigil for Mumbai victims: 5 p.m. Bell Tower. All members of the university community are invited to attend a candlelight vigil in recognition of the tragic events last week in India. The 30-minute program will include faculty and student speakers and a moment of silence in rememberance of the victims. Sponsored by the Office of the Dean of Students and Hillel at Temple University.

Like everyone else, I was horrified by the terrorist attacks in Mumbai. I was even angrier to learn that possibly young Pakistanis like myself were involved. But I feel so numb so often to the terrorism ranging throughout the world, I shamefully avoided my parents as they glued themselves to CNN and my boyfriend as he listened nonstop to coverage on NDTV.  I hid from  India’s “9-11,” instead focusing on  Thanksgiving preparations. Anyone else do this?

A (Somewhat) Indian Movie

z12If you haven’t already, be sure to watch Slumdog Millionaire. Whether you love Indian movies or hate ‘em, it’s a sure pleaser. A young boy on the verge of winning millions on India’s version of “Who Wants to be a Millionaire” solely for the purpose of winning his childhood sweetheart – what could be better? Well, the fact that the sweetheart is the smoking Feida Pinto sort of helps. Searches for her have topped Yahoo Buzz lists.

I didn’t find it different in plot than any of your typical Bollywood mirch masala fare. But if you hate the usual three hour Indian movies, you may find yourself liking this one. Especially because it skips all of the song and dance sequences that so tire certain viewers. Director Danny Boyle (Of Trainspotting and 28 Days Later fame) goes straight to the action, directing an all-Indian cast in a film that has won numerous awards and is being deemed a possible Oscar winner.

Naturally when a non-Indian directs an Indian film that isn’t horrible, one expects such buzz. Watch it yourself and let me know what you think!