Guest blooger thab00ger on male domestic violence issues…..
This actually looks really fun...oh baby!
I was hangin’ out with my cousins last night and we came across the “How Can She Slap” video on YouTube. It’s a clip from an Indian game show where this lady (dressed like a dominatrix) comes out and insults the contestants and makes them to weird things. I understand all the sh*t talking - I mean that’s part of the show and all but at one point one contestant talks back to the lady and she ends up slapping him fairly hard in the face. That’s when the ownage ensues. He ends up slapping her back and then ends up being kicked around by a bunch of male audience members and people who worked on stage (probably thinking they would get laid or maybe get their pickle tickled if they came to her rescue… uhhh no sorry boys.)
Warning: This video contains a number of shouted obscenities, so you may not want to watch at work!
The video is awesome. Not because some girl got slapped or because some guy got slapped but because this is a perfect example of how society has shifted from the pro-male mentality to the anti-male mentality (OK maybe that’s a little extreme but you get what I’m saying. Hopefully). I tried asking a bunch of people if it was acceptable for a woman to beat on a man and the only response I got was “Stop whining.” Which is stupid for two reasons: First, I’m pretty sure I wasn’t f*ckin whining (I swear) and secondly, it didn’t answer the goddamn question!
Couldn't come up with a joke for this one...
Now I think I have mentioned this in a previous post but I’ll say it again anyway. I’m against hitting people in general but if you are cornered and you have no choice but to fight in order defend your life or someone else’s then Godspeed (and may the force be with you). And granted the physical abuse inflicted by men can be much greater, BUT I still need to have this one question answered - Why does it seem not as bad for a man to get battered and abused by a woman?
I’ve heard people say “Well it’s because I was raised never to hit a woman” or “Take it like a man.” The worst excuse I got besides “Stop whining!” (and I wasn’t f*ckin whining OK? You know who you are assh*le) was “Well, it’s because men get paid more.” Wow, really? I guess. I’m still not exactly sure about the pay thing anyways because every woman who has worked with me got the same pay I did, but I guess that’s for a different post.
Back in my wild days if anyone hit me they’d get punched right the f*ck back (I might still do that… maybe) and if a girl hit me I’d either push her real hard on the ground or (depending on her size and the magnitude of her assault) I would have slapped her back or mushed (placing your palm firmly against the face and pushing with considerable force) her.
Hitting anyone weaker than you is just wrong in general. I think that’s just some school yard bullly sh*t. And anyone who gets off beating up people physically weaker than them is hella stupid. HELLA stupid. (Yeah, I say hella). It doesn’t matter if it’s a male or a female. (Unless the skinny little sh*t has a weapon and you are gettin’ tired of him/her chasing you around the block over and over again while having your screams for help get ignored by your neighbors). Other than that it’s complete douchbaggery.
BUT I DON’T HIT PEOPLE ANYMORE! Had to clarify that. (Maybe.)
IT TASTES GREAT! I F*CKIN SWEAR! PLEASE NOOOO!!!
OK, let’s get away from the domestic violence scene and make our way to laws that discriminate against men. This is a lot to type down so I’m gonna encourage people to read the website that I linked to. I honestly had no idea that this kind of stuff even goes on. It kinda made me sick…
Anyways before you guys comment, just read that website. And if anyone wants to tear my ass to shreds go ahead. I just want some feedback from intelligent people. And from from the looks of it this site has a lot of intelligent and thoughtful readers. (That was my sh*tty attempt to kiss ass. You like?)
Oh yeah, check this one out too.
And again, sorry if I have offended anyone. ‘Twas not my intent. Also let me know if I got something wrong or forgot to mention something. Thanks.
When that video first came out, there were a few blogs that featured it. I remember one in particular (don’t remember which) that seemed to be on the guy’s side–especially in the comments as well.)
But freaking TMZ, had to write something like, and he “hits back….with prejudice.” And then ends with making fun of him for crying.
It. freaking. pissed. me. off.
I felt sorry for the guy. You could tell from the video that it was sort of automatic, and as soon as he did it, he had an “oh, shit” face. Which is why he freaked out and yelled “how can she slap?” The dumbass guys. There is one who kept going back for more beat down on this guy. I have no idea what their problem was. It was done once. Then they keep coming back. Either like you said, they just wanted to get laid, or or just wanted to be all macho.
I mean, come on. She can’t expect to slap random guys with whom she has no personal relationship with, and think it would be completely justified.
Many would immediately hit back out of reflex. Once it goes way out of hand or goes past that reflex to punching, and giving a beat down to a weaker person–yeah not cool.
But it was obvious from the video that the guy was the one wronged. I felt sorry for him when he realized it, immediately tried to explain himself, but still got beat up by a bunch of guys who were just trying to show off.
“If a girl hit me I’d either push her real hard on the ground or (depending on her size and the magnitude of her assault) I would have slapped her back or mushed (placing your palm firmly against the face and pushing with considerable force) her”
Okay, now I’m officially scared of you TB!
hey… it depends on the situation…
i really want to see what the men have to say. hopefully they don’t stay quiet about this topic.
You may have scared them as well :P
i hope not… that’d just be sad.
Lol, no worries. This separates the boys from the men…
r u seriously arguing this? This is like a jerry springer gameshow, if this happened on jerry springer we would be shouting “JERRY JERRY” -_- People are responding to it like a jerry springer game show “she deserved it” or “i’d slap that bitch too” or “bitch got what’s coming to her” but honestly domestic violence in terms of real situations can’t really correlate to a jerry springer environment. Domestic violence is realistic tragedy that befalls many women. That being said I don’t think there’s any good reason to hit a women….even though some have it coming.
Note – W did work at a domestic violence shelter and has extensive experience working with victims of abuse.
As will I, soon.
http://phillygrrl.com/2009/02/06/wifebeaters/
true. some situations i think might require self defense. but unwarranted abuse is definitely wrong. but i still do not see a reason for it to be ok for women to physically and emotionally abuse men. but if a man does it to a woman he is labeled a monster.
i saw an episode of 20/20 where 2 actors were publicly engaged in a domestic dispute. when they had the man yank the woman around people came to her rescue. but when they had the woman repeatedly hit the man over and over with her shoe and pull his hair and verbally abuse him people just walked by and assumed the man did something wrong and he deserved it. one woman even pumped her fist with glee while motioning “YES!” with her mouth.
alot of domestic violence towards men go unrecorded because men feel ashamed to have been physically abused by thier significant other.