Monthly Archives: August 2009

Gaydar: My Life in the Ghost of Bush

I’ve been rather obsessively following the story of Aaron Stella, Gaydar editor at Phawker. Anyone else catch his piece this week?

When we last left off, I was cornered in the back room in the psychiatrist’s office. With their police escort at their side, my parents delivered their ultimatum: either I go to the psych ward peacefully, or be committed, leaving an indelible blemish on my permanent record, (which turned-out to be bullshit I later found out). Thankfully, my anger didn’t get the best of me, and I submitted. I assured the police that there was no need for their assistance en route. They went their way, and I with my mother. My father, who was now morbidly obese and beleaguered from the divorce proceedings with my mother, left without saying a word.

Okay, in theory I know there are parents who commit their kid because he or she is gay/lesbian (or because they don’t want to go to college), but reading about Aaron’s recollection just reinforces the craziness that some people have to go through.

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Painting schmainting. Give ‘em a book.

I don’t have anything against Thomas Eakins. He was a great artist. He graduated from the same high school I attended. His paintings are awesome. Especially The Gross Clinic. When I used to candystripe at Thomas Jefferson Hospital, I would often visit the painting during lunchtime.

But seriously, what’s going on here?

Incoming freshmen at the University of Pennsylvania are already hard at work researching their “freshmen project,” but the 19-year tradition has changed a bit this year.

Instead of having to read a book, students this year are required to study and be prepared to discuss the famed 1875 painting “The Gross Clinic”, by Thomas Eakins.

Oh, come on. Give ‘em some real work. Make ‘em sweat. I guess the reward for acing your SATs and getting good grades is having a lazy summer. Back when I was a kid in high school, we had to read multiple books that we were tested on once the school year began. Lucky college kids. They get to contemplate a painting.

Incoming freshman Ali Derassouyan prefers this project to reading a book and writing a paper about it…

When I was 18, I’d prefer it as well.

Have you ever lied to get good service?

In late July, I read the story of one Anjula Acharia-Bath, CEO of Desi Hits!, whose experience on a first-class flight was… well, let’s just say it wasn’t a lot of fun.

The attendants were paying a lot of attention to everyone, bringing extra pillows, fluffing blankets and doing everything in their power to make these other travelers comfortable. People were getting refills for their wine glasses. I couldn’t get a glass of water. Continue reading

Fashion Hero: Dad

Paul Stuart flannel suit

Guest contributor/fashion plate Mr. Jones sure knows how to make the girls swoon…

It’s easy to look around and see crazy fashion on the internet, television and magazines. We regularly venerate people like Kanye West and Lady Gaga as style icons. The problem is that their kind of high fashion doesn’t regularly translate in to easily wearable day-to-day outfits. So while I enjoy looking to these people to determine the newest trends, for practical purposes my first fashion hero is my father.

My father knows how to dress. As a salesman for more than 30 years he wore bespoke suits, rocked an impeccable beard and always understood that no matter how unfair it may be, people will garner their first impression of you by what you’re wearing.

Now before you wonder what kind of effete clotheshorse raised me, let me assure you that my father is a man’s man. My dad has had an upper plate since losing those teeth in a street fight at 18. After the navy, my father’s first car was a 1963 Corvette which he stripped down for racing by hand and had painted 32 coats of candy apple tangerine. My dad likes football, straight liquor and books about war; he’s the last of a dying generation of men born before mandals and “product”. Continue reading

Welcome to our latest contributor: the fashionista!

Ladies and gents – a style connoisseur to answer your burning fashion questions. Please join me in welcoming Mr. Jones:

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“Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy, But not express’d in fancy; rich not gaudy; For the apparel oft proclaims the man.” Polonius Act 1, Scene 3 Hamlet

“Damn Philly’s got some wack gear up in this jawn.” One of my boys on his last visit to Philadelphia.

Recently Phillygrrl and I were emailing back and forth about our love for The Sartorialist and we decided that Philly could use a fashion advice columnist. While I’ve never considered myself “fashionable” somehow over the course of that email thread I was nominated to take on that role. Later, I was lamenting to a friend that I had probably bitten off more than I could chew when she pointed out that I had once helped her pick out and buy an entire outfit for a job interview. As my friend and I started reviewing my fashion biography I gradually realized that I may have something to offer this city in the way of advice. Here’s a quick list of my credentials:

  • Since 1985, when I talked my parents in to buying me a pair of Air Jordans, I’ve had a shoe “problem” which has grown to include a small Adidas addiction.

It’s All in Da Foot

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As summer draws to a close, it’s a good time for a girl to give herself the once-over. No, not your conscience, although that’s a good idea too. I’m talking about the feet. A summer in flip-flops and gladiator sandals, along with the usual sneakers, flats and heels is bound to have done your feet some damage. And it’s more noticeable than you would’ve thought according to a recent article in the NY Times.

I feel bad about my feet. And as it turns out, I’ve got plenty of company. More than 50 percent of women say their feet embarrass them “always, frequently or sometimes,” according to a 2008 study of 500 women by Kelton Research for the American Podiatric Medical Association.

And here I thought it was just me.

Only one in three women moisturize their feet eight or more times a month, according to the 2008 podiatric association study. Having one face cream for day and another for night is common, yet women seldom slather lotion below their ankles on a daily basis.

So more often than not, the average woman is walking around with ashy feet? Lovely. Continue reading

Does Your Pop Music Suck? Love Therapy.

Have you ever listened to a song so much that it became good? I don’t mean to imply that the song wasn’t good all along. Maybe it was just that you felt lukewarm about it. But there was something there, a je ne sais quoi that made you want to give it a second chance.

Maybe even this second chance left you tepid. Maybe you didn’t think about the song for months. But one day, over a plate of seafood pasta at a local bar and grill, the music returned to you, muffled, from the restaurant’s sound system. You thought you were merely enjoying some succulent scallops and fettuccine, but at work all around you were the song’s subtle tendrils of awesome, creeping into your brain between strained conversation, awakening within you a passion that must have lain dormant in your soul until this moment.

The next thing you know, you’re in your car wondering exactly how many times you can listen to Kelly Clarkson’s I Do Not Hook Up on repeat before your brain physically shuts down. And it’s crucial to know, because you will definitely be playing the song on repeat that number of times minus one.

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Yo Kids, Wanna Learn Filmmaking?

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Folks from the Asian Arts Initative passed on the following opportunity:

A CALL FOR YOUTH APPRENTICES

Under the guidance of award-winning independent filmmaker Gary San Angel, four youth apprentices will participate in an intensive weeklong video-editing, documentary-making workshop during August 17-21 from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m.

The program is completely free. In fact, upon satisfactory completion of the workshop, each youth apprentice will be paid a $100 stipend.

The apprenticeship is open to all youth 13 to 21 years old. Asian Americans are especially encouraged to apply. Some video-editing or related experience is required.

Please complete the application (which is available from the Asian Arts Initiative website) then drop it off at Asian Arts Initiative (1219 Vine Street, Philadelphia, PA 19107) OR e-mail it to toni@asianartsinitiative.org.

Application deadline is August 10, 2009. If you have questions, please contact Toni at (215)557-0455.

Pakistani Americans Protest in Philadelphia

On August 4, Philadelphia’s Pakistani Christian community gathered in Center City to protest the killings of six Christians in Pakistan:

More than 100 Christian houses were burned and looted on Saturday in a rampage that lasted about eight hours by a crowd the authorities estimate was as large as 20,000 strong. In addition to the seven members of the Hameed family who were killed, about 20 people were wounded. Continue reading

A Nuclear Iran: How does this change your world view?

Er, so remember guest contributor jdavis85? Before leaving the blogosphere, he wrote one last post. Except that I just found it today, so it was about four months ago when he wrote it. Luckily, these kinds of issues never go away…

There are two major issues that I am very interested in and I spend about 1-2 hours each day reading blogs about these issues. These issues are Israeli politics/relations and China in general. So, naturally, as someone who considers himself a Zionist and tries to continually keep updated on Israeli politics, I read Jeffrey Goldberg’s blog over at the Atlantic. Recently, he had an interview with Benjamin (Bibi) Netanyahu, the recently sworn in prime minister of Israel (for the second time at that!). The full text of the interview can be found here.

One thing to note is that during the interview, Bibi implies, signals, hints at, however you want to call it, that if America doesn’t manage to stop Iran’s acquiring nuclear arms, Israel will be forced to. After all, for a country that has stated that it wants to wipe Israel off the map, publicly funds two terrorist organizations, and has recently rebuffed Obama’s attempt at peace, who can blame the Israelis? But, what is also important to note is Joe Klein’s note on the same subject where he said:

“Netanyahu is also completely wrong when he says that Iran, with a bomb, will be able to coerce Arab neighbors to its side. The precise opposite is true: Iran with a bomb would touch off an Arab arms race. The very prospect of Iran with a bomb is freaking out the Arabs now–in private, your average Egyptian, Jordanian or Saudi diplomat is far more passionate about the threat from Iran than the “atrocities” Israel undertook in Gaza.  ” Continue reading